18 Jan. Here it is: the tragedy created by excessive gossip regarding the private lives of Dr Shashi Tharoor and his wife Sunanda Pushkar, who allegedly committed suicide on Friday (17/01). It was a case of suspicion, interfering in the private lives of celebrities, and media and social media spreading rumours. Read it from India Today:
A day after Sunanda Pushkar, wife of Minister of State for Human Resources Development Shashi Tharoor, was found dead in a Delhi hotel room soon after a Twitter war with Pakistan journalist Mehr Tarar, India Today Online is in possession of an email that had been sent by the scribe to the minister.
Here is what she wrote:
From: Mehr Tarar
Date: Sun, 28 Jul 2013 09:36:15 +0500
To: Shashi Tharoor
And I’m very sorry about what is happening in your life. I know how much this marriage means to you. I know how much your wife means to you. I think you accidentally wrote on a different thread when I asked you to say something about my Friday article (in which I quoted you.. thank you for reading and liking). I am mortified. I joked about it last night because I was too shocked to say anything. We have met twice. We have become very good friends. I feel very happy, and to tell you the truth kinda honoured to be your friend. As I have said on twitter and in my articles, I am a huge fan of your books and your political views. Even other than that, talking to you about my life has given me a new outlook on certain things. Your innate decency and moral compass has made me rethink a few things. Thank you Shashi…for being in my life, long distance dost sahi. Some things are hard for people to fathom, and come to terms with..life teaches us to be one-dimensional and suspicious of all we can’t see. Sometimes, the communication gap between people becomes so huge – for one reason or the other – that each word is doubted, each truth becomes shallow. But in the end only truth works. So be yourself..you are wonderful. InshAllah things will work out between the two of you.
About me being the reason you have problems with your wife…main kya kahun. I don’t even want to think what it would do to my very young kid. So I guess I was right all my life. Friendship between a man and a woman will always be labelled incorrectly. And even the woman who’s the love of your life will doubt your word against very circumstantial evidence.
You are in my prayers, Shashi. May there be peace in your life and marriage.
This is the reply that Tharoor sent to Tarar’s mail:
From: Shashi Tharoor
Date: Sun, Jul 28, 2013 at 2:27 PM
To: Mehr Ttarar
Thank you for these very kind and thoughtful words, Mehr. I’m afraid it is sometimes difficult for people to believe that such friendships are possible or that intellectual companionship alone could have made us close friends in the very short time since we first met. I do love her deeply and it saddens me that she does not believe me.
In fact Sunanda has asked that we not be in touch any more. Getting her well and reducing stress on her is my major priority right now and I hope you will understand and forgive me if I stop our phone and email exchanges. To my mind you will always be a valued friend and I hope the day will come when all 3 of us can meet and put this misunderstanding behind us.